ben and gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog ...the adventure begins Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:32:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 en Busy Bees http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/06/02/busy-bees/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/06/02/busy-bees/#comments Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:32:00 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/06/02/busy-bees/ Ben and Gen are currently tied up with work. Hopefully we can get back to our regular programming anytime this month. :-)

]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/06/02/busy-bees/feed/ Masters & Disasters of Marriage Quiz http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/04/10/masters-disasters-of-marriage-quiz/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/04/10/masters-disasters-of-marriage-quiz/#comments Thu, 10 Apr 2008 03:17:07 +0000 ben http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/04/10/masters-disasters-of-marriage-quiz/ Expert Advice Masters & Disasters of Marriage Quiz
By Dr. John Gottman

What makes Marriage Work?

For the last 25 years at the Family Research Lab at the University of Washington, Dr. John Gottman studied what he calls the “masters and disasters” of marriage. He studies heartrate, facial expression, and how people talk about their relationship to each other and to other people. He’s able to predict with 90% accuracy which couples are going to make it, and which will not. Test the strength of your marriage in this relationship quiz prepared by Gottman.

Give yourself one point for each “yes” answer.
1. I can name my partner’s best friends.

yes

no

2. I can tell you what stresses my partner is currently facing.

yes

no
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]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/04/10/masters-disasters-of-marriage-quiz/feed/ Making a long distance marriage work http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/making-a-long-distance-marriage-work/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/making-a-long-distance-marriage-work/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2008 01:29:41 +0000 ben http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/making-a-long-distance-marriage-work/ Handling long distance marriage is very challenging especially for couples like us who just started married life. And so far I can say that we are doing a pretty good job in keeping our relationship in the right direction.

To those who are on the same situation as ours, here are some helpful tips that I found in the net on how to make long distance marriage work:

Accentuate the positive

Couples who appreciate the positive aspects of their separation are more likely to stay together, says Gregory Guldner, M.D., author of Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide (JF Milne Publications, 2003).

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]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/making-a-long-distance-marriage-work/feed/ Spending holy week in Batangas http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/spending-holy-week-in-batangas/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/spending-holy-week-in-batangas/#comments Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:05:03 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/spending-holy-week-in-batangas/ I had my much needed break from work last holy week. Finally i was able to relax and enjoy the trip without receiving any calls from work. ahhh…that’s what i called a “vacation”.

if you are interested to know the things that happened during our recent trip to Nasugbu, i strongly suggest that you click this link.

Enjoy! :D

 

]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/31/spending-holy-week-in-batangas/feed/ The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/30/the-secret-to-a-lasting-marriage-embrace-imperfection/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/30/the-secret-to-a-lasting-marriage-embrace-imperfection/#comments Sat, 29 Mar 2008 16:44:43 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/30/the-secret-to-a-lasting-marriage-embrace-imperfection/ Found this article from weddingsatwork. Ben and I became a member of this yahoogroup when we started planning for our wedding. Great finds, great suppliers , great people!

This is quite a long read but it’s worth it! happy reading..

The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection
Deb Graham

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner
every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made
breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and
extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if
anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom,
and ask me how my day was at school.
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]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/30/the-secret-to-a-lasting-marriage-embrace-imperfection/feed/ wedding guestbook http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/26/wedding-guestbook/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/26/wedding-guestbook/#comments Wed, 26 Mar 2008 07:31:12 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/26/wedding-guestbook/ Guestbook has arrived!

A good friend of mine who spent sleepless nights editing / cropping the pictures finally gave me our guestbook during our recent trip to Batangas. it’s a 8 x 10, 20 pages colorful book with a twist. He added photoshop brushes in the layout which made it more colorful and lively. I love the pastel colors too!. Thanks for the early gift!

Note to Guests:
Don’t forget to sign our guestbook … no message NO freebies! we he he he

Prenup shots - Free
layouting - Free
Printing - Free

wedding guestbook - PRICELESS

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Hon,

I just want to let you know how happy i am that God brought you back into my life. I love you so much and i’m hoping that i will be there on your next birthday.

gen

]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/21/its-her-day-today/feed/ Asthmatic husbands… http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/17/asthmatic-husbands/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/17/asthmatic-husbands/#comments Mon, 17 Mar 2008 05:20:31 +0000 ben http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/17/asthmatic-husbands/ To those husbands who have asth-ma wife syndrome (just like what my hubby calls himself); be proud because you are actually investing in making your marriage work.

John M. Gottman, PH.D., the New York Times Bestseller of the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work said; men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and less likely to divorce than men who resist their wives influence.

But of course it takes two to make the relationship  work. So, wives on the other hand should treat their husbands with honor and respect.

I’m very blessed because I have an emotionally intelligent husband. But he prefer to be called “asthmatic”.

]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/17/asthmatic-husbands/feed/ going nuts http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/11/going-nuts/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/11/going-nuts/#comments Tue, 11 Mar 2008 07:38:27 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/11/going-nuts/ Last weekend i had my own episode of retardation. I don’t want to eat, i don’t want to get out of my bed, i don’t want to go out — I don’t want to do anything! All i can think of is the one who is miles and miles away from me. very difficult…very frustrating… and you cant do anything but to wait and to have faith.

60 more crazy weekends to go before i can finally see the person who has the cure for my temporary insatiny.

]]> http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/11/going-nuts/feed/ The Friendster pic that caught benee’s attention http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/07/the-friendster-pic-that-caught-benees-attention/ http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/07/the-friendster-pic-that-caught-benees-attention/#comments Thu, 06 Mar 2008 20:28:20 +0000 gen http://www.benandgen.com/blog/2008/03/07/the-friendster-pic-that-caught-benees-attention/ While going through my normal routine in the Internet (reading blogs and news), The picture in this post reminded me of the first time we set foot in Calaruega. Right there and then i fell in love with the place and told my friends that “..this is where i’m getting married. ” I even posted it in Friendster which drew a lot of attention particularly the folks overseas.

One more year and my dream of getting married in this romantic place with my soul mate will become a reality.

P.S.

I really have this hunch that this picture in Friendster might be the real reason why benee went home for vacation last May 2007. :D

walang basagan ng trip!

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